Dear Nargles,
I IMMEDIATELY THOUGHT OF GUS AND HAZEL TOO!!! GREAT MINDS THINK ALIKE, AM I RIGHT OR AM I RIGHT???
Anyways, I agree with everything you've said. As one of our dear friends says, "Better sh*t your pants than be constipated the rest of your life." And I agree. No one can lead a life without any sadness, and if you don't take any risks, your life will never be sad, or happy, or exciting, or drama-filled, or ANYTHING. The line I wrote in my middle school graduation speech was "A ship in the harbour is safe... but that's not what ships are made for." Even if you knew your happiness was definitely going to end in sadness, cherish the happiness because there's not much of it to go around all seven billion of us.
That's all I have to add,
- Quibbles 8/11/14
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Monday, August 11, 2014
023.5 While walking in the park, you see a stranger and realize with absolute certainty that if you go over and introduce yourself, the two of you will fall in love more deeply than you even imagine possible. But you also know that in 6 months the person will be hit by a bus and killed. Would you go over to the person or leave? Assume you know that once you decide, you’ll forget what lies ahead.
023 While walking in the park, you see a stranger and realize with absolute certainty that if you go over and introduce yourself, the two of you will fall in love more deeply than you even imagine possible. But you also know that in 6 months the person will be hit by a bus and killed. Would you go over to the person or leave? Assume you know that once you decide, you’ll forget what lies ahead.
Hey, guys, I'm back! I know I said I'd post on Saturday, and today happens to be Monday, but I've been a bit tired and busy, sorry!! I hope you've all been well and faithfully read Quibbles's posts this week, as she upheld the blog all on her own :)
Regarding the question in the title, I think I would do it. If you know for sure you will fall in love with this person, that means he or she is great, and will end up your best friend and you'll have amazing times while you are together. Would you really choose not knowing your best friend if you knew they were going to die soon and cause you such immense pain from their loss? It's pretty much no competition. With the pain comes all the wonderful experiences you had together, and that will help you get through the loss.
This question reminds me of Augustus and Hazel Grace a little bit. Even though Hazel, Gus (Augustus), and their families knew that Hazel was probably going to die, Gus never doubted once that he wanted to be with her in the time remaining. That's what made him special. He didn't care that Hazel's cancer was terminal, because the time they spent together was worth the pain he knew would come along with her death. (This was not quite the ending, but I won't give anything away ;))
Another thing I would like to add is my belief about destiny, or fate. Some people don't believe in this, but I like to believe that fate isn't a set path, but a set of choices you make personally to get you where you're meant to be. Sometimes people make bad choices, but that just helps them grow as a person and towards their destiny because it will shape the choices they make in the future. If I didn't know beforehand that my "true love" was destined to die in six months (in one way or another), I would have fallen in love with this person and would have been forced to endure the pain of this person's death. These kinds of situations change people, sometimes for the better, or the worse, but I think it's meant to be. Trying to evade destiny would not end well.
Wouldn't it be unfair to your "true love" to also alter their lives in such a huge way? You don't know anything about this person, and you're already depriving them of your love and being loved. They could really need it, you never know. Maybe he or she has cancer, just like Hazel, and needs someone to love them and have this experience before they die. Maybe they're going to die in a car crash, or something unpredictable, but at least they'll die knowing they're loved. I think the spread of love, in any of its forms, should be encouraged and celebrated.
What do you think, Quibbles?
Love always,
- Nargles 8/11/14
Regarding the question in the title, I think I would do it. If you know for sure you will fall in love with this person, that means he or she is great, and will end up your best friend and you'll have amazing times while you are together. Would you really choose not knowing your best friend if you knew they were going to die soon and cause you such immense pain from their loss? It's pretty much no competition. With the pain comes all the wonderful experiences you had together, and that will help you get through the loss.
This question reminds me of Augustus and Hazel Grace a little bit. Even though Hazel, Gus (Augustus), and their families knew that Hazel was probably going to die, Gus never doubted once that he wanted to be with her in the time remaining. That's what made him special. He didn't care that Hazel's cancer was terminal, because the time they spent together was worth the pain he knew would come along with her death. (This was not quite the ending, but I won't give anything away ;))
Another thing I would like to add is my belief about destiny, or fate. Some people don't believe in this, but I like to believe that fate isn't a set path, but a set of choices you make personally to get you where you're meant to be. Sometimes people make bad choices, but that just helps them grow as a person and towards their destiny because it will shape the choices they make in the future. If I didn't know beforehand that my "true love" was destined to die in six months (in one way or another), I would have fallen in love with this person and would have been forced to endure the pain of this person's death. These kinds of situations change people, sometimes for the better, or the worse, but I think it's meant to be. Trying to evade destiny would not end well.
Wouldn't it be unfair to your "true love" to also alter their lives in such a huge way? You don't know anything about this person, and you're already depriving them of your love and being loved. They could really need it, you never know. Maybe he or she has cancer, just like Hazel, and needs someone to love them and have this experience before they die. Maybe they're going to die in a car crash, or something unpredictable, but at least they'll die knowing they're loved. I think the spread of love, in any of its forms, should be encouraged and celebrated.
What do you think, Quibbles?
Love always,
- Nargles 8/11/14
Friday, August 8, 2014
021.5 Freak the Geek
Dear Quibbles,
I agree with John Green about the situation he mentioned. It's not the girls' fault that their bullies think that they aren't good enough, or cool enough, or too geeky. The fact that they care enough to say things like that portrays how they might feel about themselves. They thing they need to do this to remain popular or to get people to like them, etc. That's their problem that they feel this way, and dislike people for being themselves. Sure, there are a good amount of people I dislike, for no good reason at all, because they just aren't my kind of people. I, however, don't make mean comments towards them or bully them.
I sort of believe that if I don't like someone for who they are, it is my fault. This is due to the fact that I think that if I could see everyone, or just a couple strangers, for who they really are, almost all of them are worthy of my love or liking, you know what I mean. Everyone has people who love them, and everyone has flaws. Perhaps behind every bully is a really insecure little boy or girl, or behind a terrorist is someone whose family was shot and killed (for being terrorists), leaving him scarred and angry. It's seeing past the flaws and accepting them that really constitutes love. There are some horrible people out there, with horrible flaws that can't or should not be accepted. Some people can't be helped, but I truly believe that if you show someone you care they will eventually be willing to let you in. Showing that you care, you can help them fix the bad, and replace it with good. We throw criminals into jail without getting them what they really need. Support, therapy, a caring community. The government virtually throws them in an extended time out, which isn't effective. They throw them away without trying to fix them, they don't show they care. Too easily we give up on people. Maybe this is me being an optimist, but really, "love is all you need."
Okay, sorry, this took a really big turn, but let me know what you think, Quibbles!
Love always,
- Nargles 8//11/14
I agree with John Green about the situation he mentioned. It's not the girls' fault that their bullies think that they aren't good enough, or cool enough, or too geeky. The fact that they care enough to say things like that portrays how they might feel about themselves. They thing they need to do this to remain popular or to get people to like them, etc. That's their problem that they feel this way, and dislike people for being themselves. Sure, there are a good amount of people I dislike, for no good reason at all, because they just aren't my kind of people. I, however, don't make mean comments towards them or bully them.
I sort of believe that if I don't like someone for who they are, it is my fault. This is due to the fact that I think that if I could see everyone, or just a couple strangers, for who they really are, almost all of them are worthy of my love or liking, you know what I mean. Everyone has people who love them, and everyone has flaws. Perhaps behind every bully is a really insecure little boy or girl, or behind a terrorist is someone whose family was shot and killed (for being terrorists), leaving him scarred and angry. It's seeing past the flaws and accepting them that really constitutes love. There are some horrible people out there, with horrible flaws that can't or should not be accepted. Some people can't be helped, but I truly believe that if you show someone you care they will eventually be willing to let you in. Showing that you care, you can help them fix the bad, and replace it with good. We throw criminals into jail without getting them what they really need. Support, therapy, a caring community. The government virtually throws them in an extended time out, which isn't effective. They throw them away without trying to fix them, they don't show they care. Too easily we give up on people. Maybe this is me being an optimist, but really, "love is all you need."
Okay, sorry, this took a really big turn, but let me know what you think, Quibbles!
Love always,
- Nargles 8//11/14
Tuesday, August 5, 2014
019 Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?
This one's going to be short because I'm kind of busy and I have no inspiration whatsoever without the amazing Nargles to discuss things with.
Sorry, Nargles, I've sort of deserted this blog. Only three views yesterday and one view the day before that, you must be so disappointed in me :(
Don't look at me like that, it's not my fault people aren't interested in seven (in my opinion) VERY interesting short story prompts. Or whether or not Hitler should be placed in an Evil Baby Orphanage.
Moving on, I don't know why religions that support love cause so many wars. Personally, I don't really belong with any particular religion, so maybe I'm not the best person to answer this question. But I do know that lots of religions only support the "right" kind of love. I mean, plenty of believers only believe in love if it's "with our own kind of people" or between a boy and a girl. My opinion is that as long as you're not hurting anyone, go ahead and do whatever you want with your life. Everyone is entitled to an opinion, and people might not agree with yours, but your opinion is your opinion and their opinion is their opinion. You don't need to convert their thoughts to yours, and they don't need to bother you about your thoughts, either. (This does not apply to people who think doing drugs and selling them to teens is a great idea... have some self-preservation, please.)
I'm not trying to say that people should shoot puppies and dance naked in the middle of streets while feeding beer to babies. If you're affecting someone (or something) in any way, you probably should consider their opinion and behave accordingly. But if your neighbours are gay or Jewish or Muslim or Christian or Russian or Japanese or anything else that your opinion does not pertain to, don't go throwing eggs at their cars (TFIOS reference?); their love lives have nothing do to with you, and affect you in no way possible.
These are my thoughts on this topic. I would be very interested in hearing yours.
Thanks,
- Quibbles 8/5/14
Sorry, Nargles, I've sort of deserted this blog. Only three views yesterday and one view the day before that, you must be so disappointed in me :(
Don't look at me like that, it's not my fault people aren't interested in seven (in my opinion) VERY interesting short story prompts. Or whether or not Hitler should be placed in an Evil Baby Orphanage.
Moving on, I don't know why religions that support love cause so many wars. Personally, I don't really belong with any particular religion, so maybe I'm not the best person to answer this question. But I do know that lots of religions only support the "right" kind of love. I mean, plenty of believers only believe in love if it's "with our own kind of people" or between a boy and a girl. My opinion is that as long as you're not hurting anyone, go ahead and do whatever you want with your life. Everyone is entitled to an opinion, and people might not agree with yours, but your opinion is your opinion and their opinion is their opinion. You don't need to convert their thoughts to yours, and they don't need to bother you about your thoughts, either. (This does not apply to people who think doing drugs and selling them to teens is a great idea... have some self-preservation, please.)
I'm not trying to say that people should shoot puppies and dance naked in the middle of streets while feeding beer to babies. If you're affecting someone (or something) in any way, you probably should consider their opinion and behave accordingly. But if your neighbours are gay or Jewish or Muslim or Christian or Russian or Japanese or anything else that your opinion does not pertain to, don't go throwing eggs at their cars (TFIOS reference?); their love lives have nothing do to with you, and affect you in no way possible.
These are my thoughts on this topic. I would be very interested in hearing yours.
Thanks,
- Quibbles 8/5/14
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